More popular now than ever, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs are a very big deal for the participants, their families and friends. These happy occasions celebrate the coming of age of 12 and 13 year old girls and boys in the Jewish faith community. The event includes a religious service, which is often followed by a large celebration, such as an elaborate dinner, party or reception. And the young celebrants often receive money, gifts and lots of cards to congratulate them on becoming adults.
If someone you know is celebrating a Bar/Bat Mitzvah and you want to send a card but are not quite sure what to write in the message, we’ve got you covered. Just take a moment and check out our handy guide for some inspiration and top tips, so you can write a message that hits the spot perfectly.
What is a Bar/Bat Mitzvah card?
Bat and Bar Mitzvah ceremonies mark the transition into adulthood for young Jewish boys and girls aged 12 and 13 years old. This is when they become accountable for their own actions: before this age, parents will traditionally assume that responsibility.
Bar and Bat Mitzvah blessings are thought to date back to around the 5th century and even earlier; however, the first official ceremony was recorded in France during the 13th century. It would have looked a bit like a modern day celebration, with many of the elements that we would recognise in today’s modern day ceremonies present by the Middle Ages.
Those celebrating their Bat or Bar Mitzvah will have worked hard before the ceremony, which is called a Shabbat service. They’ll have learnt texts and chants, and on the day they will read aloud from the Torah and lead some prayers during the service. They will also usually make a speech, and the parents and other family members may also participate by saying blessings and making speeches too.
Why send a Bar/Bat Mitzvah card?
This day is a huge moment for any young adult – a celebration of them, their Jewish faith and the new responsibilities they are expected to take on in the community. A Bar or Bat Mitzvah is generally followed by some lavish festivities organized and attended by lots of family and friends who also bring gifts.
A Bar Mitzvah card is a recognition of the event and a perfect way to contribute to the celebrations – something that the participants can keep forever to mark this important moment in their lives.
Writing something heartfelt
As a huge occasion in the Jewish faith community, this is often an emotional one too. Parents, family members and friends will be proudly watching and rooting for their youngsters throughout the service, hoping they are word perfect. And there are often plenty of happy tears.
As a really significant moment in life, it’s one that deserves a message from the heart, so your Bar/Bat Mitzvah card message could reference how the star of the show has grown over the first 13 years of their lives and how excited you are to watch their rite of passage into young adulthood.
Here are just a few examples:
“It’s been such a pleasure watching you grow on your journey towards this momentous day. Mazel tov!”
“Congratulations on your Bat or Bar Mitzvah! I’m so proud of your accomplishments and look forward to watching you achieve wonderful things in the years to come.”
“Good luck and blessings as you journey into adulthood. We will be wishing you happiness, love and good fortune as you celebrate today.”
Writing something funny
A little humor never goes amiss – and it might even help alleviate any nerves, pressure and stress your friend or loved one is going through on the run up to their big day. Why not crack a PG joke and remind them of all the funny memories that you have shared? Think of something that will make your celebrant smile and chill out.
“Mazel tov! Today you will be officially grown up, so you can let me know what that’s like later!”
“Gifts, parties, cake and money – what’s not to like about a Bar/Bat Mitzvah?”
“Now you’re officially a man, does that mean we can’t put fake mice in your sister’s bedroom anymore? Only joking! Congratulations and have a great day.”
Writing something generic
You might not be very close to the person celebrating their big day, or you may not be of the Jewish faith yourself. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t send a Bat/Bar Mitzvah card with a message of support to let them know that you are wishing them well.
If you are a little uncertain of the best message to include, here are a few ideas for you to consider. Also, if you are unsure about salutations, mazel tov is the Jewish way to say congratulations, and either is acceptable in your card – whether you are Jewish or not.
“All our best wishes and mazel tov as you celebrate your Bar Mitzvah today.”
“Our sincere congratulations and best wishes on your Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Have an amazing day.”
And if you are still not quite sure what to write, how about saying congratulations and including a quote or saying in your Bar/Bat Mitzvah card instead?
“And the boy grew up, and the Lord blessed him.” – Judges 13:24
The perfect Bat/Bar Mitzvah card message
A Bar/Bat Mitzvah is a hugely significant event not just for the one who’s celebrating, but for their parents, family and all their friends as well. Help them celebrate by sending a memorable card to mark this key event in their lives, and wishing them every happiness and success as they make this momentous move from childhood into adulthood.